Anal Playtime

Your first anal sex toy is a big purchase and it’s not one you just want to jump into. There are a lot of things to consider before buying your first anal sex toy. You should experiment with anal play first, using fingers only to get an idea of what you want from your anal sex toy. Do you like the feeling of fullness while you do other things? If so a butt plug is probably the toy for you. Do you like the stimulation of feeling something penetrate your anus? Then you may want an anal dildo or anal beads. If you want some combination of the two you may want an anal vibrator.

The biggest choice (pun definitely intended) when it comes to anal sex toys is the size. If you are just buying your first anal sex toy you probably have not had a lot of anal experience. Smaller is definitely better in this case. If you try to buy a large anal sex toy too soon you may end up hurting yourself. It takes time to work yourself up to the extreme toys.

Your next choice is materials. There are a variety of materials out on the market when it comes to anal sex toys but they all generally fall into two categories- hard and soft. Hard toys are great if you are hoping to directly stimulate the male or female g-spot. Soft anal sex toys can have a more lifelike feeling.

1. Anal sex is just for gay men. Men and women, gay, straight, and everything in-between can and do enjoy anal play. In men anal sex toys stimulate the prostate gland, which is also known as the ‘male g-spot’. Anal sex toys can stimulate the g-spot, indirectly, in woman.

2. Anal sex is painful. Like any kind of penetration there is a potential to make your partner uncomfortable or feel pain while having anal sex. The key is to go slowly, communicate often, and use plenty of lube.

3. Anal sex is dirty. All sexual acts involve an exchange of bodily fluids and have some small level of spreading disease. Part of being a considerate partner is keeping yourself clean and fresh. Most people are fine with showering or bathing before anal sex but there are anal douches on the market if you want an added level of cleanliness. When using anal sex toys, like with most toys, using a condom with them will make clean up easier and help stop the spread of germs.

Anal beads are usually round beads made from silicone or plastic, connected on a heavy-duty string. Most anal beads are varying sizes, progressing from small to big and these are highly recommended for beginners. The graduated balls slowly accustom the beginner to anal sex toys as he or she experience gradually expanding their anal muscles.

Using a lubricant is a major part of making yourself comfortable when experimenting with anal toys, anal beads included. The beads should be inserted one at a time, slowly, to make sure your partner is comfortable with the size. The beads can be left in while you have sex or while you use other toys or they can be used themselves for anal stimulating. Pulling the beads out and sliding them back in, one at a time, is immensely pleasurable. Tugging on the cord is a great way to tease your partner.

A big part of anal beads appeal is that they are easy to clean, extremely durable, and will last you for years if you take care of them. Mild soap and water or a special anal sex toy cleaner can be used to easily clean your anal beads.

The only thing you really have to worry about it if you tear at all when you use your extreme anal sex toys. Even a little tear has the potential for trouble. It makes you more likely to pick up STD’s (even in a monogamous relationship it pays to play safe!) or get an infection from the random bacteria passing through there.

As for the size issue have you and your partner ever tried a penis sleeve or girth rings or anything? They are an awesome gay sex toy that can give you the size you crave while your partner gets some enjoyment himself. I’ve used both and loved how they felt- and was even happier with how good I could tell it made my partner feel

The snap of the glove made Mary’s eyes fill with tears.

Stan stood behind her as she pressed up against the high wooden edge of the bed, her bare back arched, her legs spread and teetering on three-inch heels, her hands behind her spreading her cheeks as far as she could. So far the only sound had been the quick “Squiq a’squip” of Stan’s repeated application of lubricant on the bare fingers of his right hand, the moaning they both made as he had lubricated her pruned anus and then the retort of Stan snapping on the glove to his left hand.

Mary had been shaking when Stan had kissed her on entering his apartment and told her what he had planned, quivering when he stripped and bathed her, shaking fully as he walked her to stand naked against the bed’s edge, mewing as he bade her pull her cheeks apart, clutching when he applied the lube to her ass and now crying with the realization that, with the glove on, Stan was about to ply her asshole.

Of course Mary wanted nothing more in all the world for her boyfriend to finger-fuck her ass, in fact she was opening up as much as she could right then to prove to Stan that she could eventually take his cock up her. Sure, she knew they had to start small, with Stan’s finger, maybe two. Then, if all went well, Mary’d ask for a toy or two, something thin maybe, but strong, a toy made specifically for ass play; maybe even a plug, dildo beads…or all three!

Mary fantasized about it all.

Was anal like the classic pot to heroin conundrum? Did you take something small and thin at first, like Stan’s finger, then ache for something bigger eventually, say a giant thumpingly thick dildo to spread you ’til you ached? Christ, Mary nearly swooned then as she imagined it!

But was it really size, the big blonde wondered as she lean there and waited. What had Mary really want, beyond the fact that she was leaning and presenting her virgin starfish to this guy she had only known three months (Jesus, did she really want an ass fucking so much that she’d let Stan do this so early into their relationship?) was that Stan was so fucking confident. Mary needed, ached, fantasized about a guy like Stan, a guy who would simply know what she needed, not second-guess her decision or constantly ask her: “Are you sure? Are You sure?” A man who simply would bring the glove and lubricant he needed, tell her this night was the night, bathe her, dry her, and then get her standing ready and willing to do what she had wanted to do for so long but had never tried.

That Stan was methodically moving forward to the obvious conclusion of putting his finger or fingers up her ass now, that he had yet to say a word really after he bathed her, that he was breathing lightly, hadn’t made a move to touch her anywhere else, nor turned her, or stepped to the side to even look at her, got Mary all that more turned-on, all that more assured, all that more submissive to this act of anal sex. Though she had masturbated to just this scenario many times she had never realized how sweetly erotic the entire escapade would be when she finally got the chance to experience it.

“Hurmp,” Mary said as Stan suddenly clutched up to her. He had hold of her left cheek vertically, spreading it even more as he snaked his covered cool wet fingers deep into her ass.

Mary smacked her pussy against the hard wooden edge of the bed and felt her stomach clutch. Shit, was she gonna come this quick?

“Open,” was all Stan said and Mary pulled with her right hand, spread that cheek for Stan and his fingers spider-ed into her, his middle finger stretching, deep and true.

Tears started to stream down Mary’s pretty pale face when the tip of Stan’s middle finger tickled her hole. Weeping fully then, Mary lost her reason as Stan fed his long lubed finger into Mary’s ass, up to the first knuckle. As she came and cried Mary looked back at Stan who looked up to her and smiled.

“You are never going to be the same,” he said and pushed in deeper.

Mary bit back a yelp, rolled up on her tip toes and knew, deeper then she had ever known anything about herself, that indeed she would never be the same.

Nor did she damn well want to be.